These are actual quotes from people when I tell them my boyfriend is almost 14 years younger than I am.
In this generation of Demi and Ashton and Samantha and Smith, why is there still a stigma about an older woman who canoodles with a younger man?
This year, my husband, who will move up into his forties, will officially be married to a girl still in her twenties. Actually, we’re just over ten years apart but it so happens that there are three little months between his fortieth birthday and my thirtieth.
Considering the fact that he teases me mercilessly about my abundance of gray hair, I think it’s about time I get to talk up my great youth.
Even though this guy and I were 25 years apart, we had a lot in common. I didn't know then that our age gap would define the relationship. I got that; but even though I knew there was no future, I didn’t cut it off completely. After it ended, he talked to a lot of people about our relationship -- and what happened through the grapevine was unexpected. Women judged me as having an ulterior, economic motive: “She just dated him for his money,” or “She thought she could get ahead.” In our society people are so quick to judge a young, naïve woman -- never the older man who perhaps should’ve known better too.
We worked in the same profession, had similar interests, and shared common philosophical views. So what if he was wrinkly, in all the places you might expect? There was zero jealousy on both sides, and I never saw him check out another woman -- due to him being satisfied, of course, but also him being well-seasoned in how to respect the opposite sex. Another lesson in dating: a fling with someone in your professional/personal circle is more often than not bad news. I have a friend who’s been married to someone for more than a decade who is 20 years older than her.
All kidding aside, there are some wonderful things about being married to a man who is more than a couple years older than you (let’s not forget that there is an assumption being made that along with age, a certain level of maturity has been reached!
) and while this post is written with a bit of laughter, there are a few things you should remember.
I tried to have sex a few times and I did, although unsatisfying.
The thing is, I’ve never really had a “type” and rarely have rules for the kind of guys I go out with.
If not, that’s totally ok.”That aside, I was holding a torch all those years for my ex. We had a connection and bond so deep that I thought that was my last and only chance at a partnership.
During these last six years, I tried to date and I did, albeit unsuccessfully.
That was my experience from dating a much older man.