Em quite rightfully pointed out just how problematic the project was, and the author of it directed her to this page Who You Callin’ A Fat Chick?
When I read it, I can tell you, I felt kind of sick. The author of the blog/book, Adrienne Santos-Longhurst says that she is offering “the no BS guide to dating with confidence for the plus size girl” – so let me just get this right. According to Ms Santos-Longhurst, dating like a fat chick is a bad thing.
), Ezra Miller’s fatty-loving smartass teen enlists the help of the supersized food-porn star next door (Carrie Baker Reynolds) to win over a chubby classmate. “I need it to be known that I like a big girl,” the announced to a barful of baseball douchebags. Big girls need love too, baby.” Asking them out works too! Johnny Sack on The Sopranos One of only two Tony Soprano’s goons to stay faithful to his oft-mocked, rotund wife, Ginny (Denise Borino, who sadly died of cancer last October), Sack refers to her as “Rubenesque” at one point, insists she doesn’t have to hide her secret candy-snacking from him, and even offers to kill Ralphie (who wouldn’t? “Jack Sprat could eat no fat/His wife could eat no lean,” but the platter definitely wasn’t the only thing the quintessential opposites-attract couple licked clean. Also the archetypal “closet” Fat Admirer: Slick player in a high-profile power position with an equally powerful, and lithe wife for a beard; bangs his orally-animated chubby secretary on the downlow.
“In fact, a large, zaftig, voluptuous, full-figured, big-boned, massive-assive honey, that is what gets me going.
Sure, maybe he’s just a swell guy who loves his wife of 10 years.
But something at home‘s inspiring her to keep wearing all those bikinis on the beach.
Even so, one could argue that these mainstream films reflect the desires of white America, or more to the point, white men, and not Black men, which up to this point is the only group of men I’ve dated.
But with brothers I find, that they, too, have internalized a particular relationship to the body-type most associated with the mammy figure.
But what I call thick and what the average brother calls thick is not the same thing. (Sister looks fabulous, by the way.) Not quite Gabourey Sidibe thick. And when I was doing the online dating thing (I’ve tried it twice, and I’m taking a break) I saw one brother that specifically said, “I’m not into the Mo’Nique thing, ladies.” Translation: No fat girls need apply.
It’s not popular to say (and I’m sure I’ll be e-stoned for saying it anyway), but if you’re overweight and serious about expanding your dating options, it may be worthwhile to shrink your waistline.
Firstly, most of you already know, I’m a fat chick. Being a plus size girl is ok, but being a fat chick is not. On her page, she outlines why this is a bad thing, because apparently fat chicks do the following: of assumptions to make about how fat chicks behave when dating.