Maybe she has looser standards for sexual activity than Christian women. I mean, if you’re getting no results in your search, it seems sensible to drop the one stipulation that’s narrowing your potential pool, right?
This rationalization is exacerbated by lots of easy excuses that remind me of the secular dating book "He’s Just Not That Into You." The book features letters from women in awful dating relationships using various excuses to explain that their misbehaving boyfriends really do care for them. And one by one, the authors shoot down the letters, explaining, “Nope, he’s just not that into you.” When it comes to dating non-Christians, we also often tell ourselves, “But this is different!
What I’m getting at is this: it seems that very outward signs of Christianity such as not drinking, being a worship major, wearing modest closes, and of course abstinence, have been elevated to such a level as to neglect other perhaps more or equally important areas.
So when Steve asked her out, her attraction to him – and the idea that he could be her husband someday – far outweighed the serious effect of his beliefs on her faith journey.
Temptation to date a non-Christian can take many forms. If non-Christians are showing interest when Christians either aren’t or aren’t around, it can be hard to resist.
And not long after that, her attendance at our study became irregular.
If I didn’t know the dangers of dating a non-Christian already, Emily’s story only underscored how tricky it can be.
You see certain “role models” jumping from one dating relationship to another.
Yet God has more in store for you than just jumping from one relationship to another.
There are all kinds of advice out there about dating today, but a lot of it is about dating in the world rather than Christian dating.
Christians need to have a different attitude toward dating.
In our last two posts we discussed how Christian dating has elevated this idea of abstinence to such a level, making the v-card (technical as it may be) a highly prized possession.