“Sometimes they look into their parent’s eyes and they see a spark. The person they knew and love is still there, somewhere deep down inside.
Those moments are what the person longs for.”Still, to Paddy, it is worth it.
An unstable sense of self is characteristic of the disorder, along with impulsiveness and demanding behavior.
“There have been times where I have been so infatuated and so blissfully happy that I felt like running away with her,” he says.
“We spoke of the perfect wedding, of names for our children – we dared to dream.”As tends to happen, however, their dreams were interrupted by reality and, in Paddy’s case, that reality includes his girlfriend’s Borderline Personality Disorder.
Knowing what to look for can help you to better maintain a relationship with someone with BPD.
According to Those phases are anecdotal in nature, but give a picture of what going through a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder might be like.
Researchers have found that BPD symptoms and diagnosis successfully predict dating satisfaction and stress, adolescents’ conflict with romantic partners, domestic violence, and separation and divorce.
Typically individuals with BPD have difficulty trusting others.
“To say that this relationship has been a roller coaster would be an understatement.
There are times [when our relationship] has plummeted to the depths whereby we were both ready to give up.” Between the periods of elation and bliss come what Paddy calls “bad phases.” “Sometimes among the arguments, the fits of anger and rage, the distrust, the paranoia, the mood swings, it seems like my girlfriend is a completely different person.” In the worst of times, he likens dating someone with Borderline Personality Disorder to having a relationship with someone who has dementia.
Treatment for Borderline Personality Disorder varies for each person, but with the right amount of care, work, dedication, and love, your relationship can even survive BPD.